Ladies, You’re Vulva Isn’t Meant To Look Like A Porn Star’s

Pornography has become mainstream. Everyone has access to it – and at every age. A study published in 2013 by Paint Bottle showed that 30 percent of all internet traffic was pornographic in nature. Anyone with a smartphone, gaming console or computer has access to porn 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. The Huffington Post reports the total number of visitors per month to Amazon, Twitter and Netflix is dwarfed by the number of visitors to porn sites. Because of the internet, pornography has been made available to the masses. No longer do boys have to search for and try to get a sneak peek at their father’s or older brother’s stash of Hustler or Playboy magazines. In fact, according to Pornhub’s data women actually watch more porn than men do.

Why is any of that information important? Well, one of the disadvantages of watching pornography is developing an unrealistic view of how you and your partner should behave in the bedroom and also a damaging expectation of how you are supposed to look. Let’s face it, most pornography is as fake as “professional” wrestling is. The average woman doesn’t have enhanced breasts and the average man isn’t 8 or 9 inches erect. Male porn stars are hired specifically because the length of their penis when erect is not the norm. And the takeaway is you most definitely are not meant to look like a porn star.

Setting aside pornography for a moment, girls are constantly bombarded from a very young age with images of what a girl is supposed to look like. This comes from places like Hollywood, Wall Street, Madison Avenue and most recently from Influencers on sites like Instagram, Snapchat and YouTube. The global population of women are not all meant to be toothpick thin supermodels, full lip actresses or big butt singers. Everyone is different and everyone is special just the way they are. Trying to comply with unspoken societal dictates of how television, movies and print media want us to look can turn a person’s confidence into a lack of self esteem that follows them for the rest of their life. The media sells a ‘look’ by bombarding girls and guys with images of models and promoting them as the norm – or as something to achieve. Open any magazine from Cosmopolitan to Sports Illustrated and you will see exactly what I mean.

We’ve been lied to for years. Being fed the notion that the utmost in beauty is the Caucasian woman. It was just a decade or two ago that it was difficult to find anyone of color in significant roles on television or in the cinema. Anybody of color was portrayed as an idiot, a pimp, a drug dealer, a prostitute or a bad driver. Even today with most terrorism in the US being carried out domestically by members of our own White community; we still see Muslims being demonized in movies and TV and our own neighborhoods. This does something to the psyche of American minority youth. It messes with your mind, your self esteem and self worth.

Ladies, you do not have to look like a porn star and you certainly do not have to act or perform like one. You and your vulva are astonishingly beautiful just the way God made you. A lot of the women you see on pornography sites have undergone surgical procedures to look the way they do. Also, when you see or hear a woman have an orgasm in porn videos they are usually exaggerated and don’t represent what real women sound like when they orgasm. Everyone speaks differently, prays, sings, dances, walks differently. You don’t need to emulate anyone else – especially the way women in Japanese porn sound. Very unrealistic. Visually, the orgasm in pornographic videos is often achieved without her partner performing any type of clitoral stimulation. Hardly the norm considering that the vast number of women can’t even achieve an orgasm during penile-vaginal penetration alone.

Many female porn stars have also completely shaved their pubic hair. Shaving the pubes or getting a full waxing reveals the full vulva in all it’s glory. On camera,seeing a porn star’s vulva and comparing it to yours can be shocking. Yours looks normal with the inner labia darker in color than the pinkish flesh surrounding it and your inner labia looks larger and extends outward touching the outer labia. The woman on screen looks like she has no inner labia and when spread, her inner labia are often non existent. Without pubic hair and without normal inner labia she looks like a six year old and immediately you think you are supposed to look like her. No! Trends swing up and down and since 2014 the trend according to the New York Times is more hair down there. In 2018, Vogue noted there was an upswing in pubic hair products and more women were opting to keep their pubic hair. Vogue said, “The Full Bush Is The New Brazilian”.

Surgery

Women get cosmetic surgery for many reasons and most are even good reasons. Cosmetic surgery can help with birth defects like repairing a cleft lip in babies, reducing scarring from burns or accidents, and even help the functionality of body parts such as legs or arms. Proponents of Labiaplasty cite little or no research to backup claims that the reason women are requesting the surgery is due to feelings of inferiority because of what they have seen in porn. The fact that some females are requesting the surgery as young as 9 years old and the fact women bring downloaded images of vulva from pornographic videos or photos would be proof enough.

If your partner prefers your pelvic region to be clean shaven and then upon viewing your genitalia hair free, up close and personal your partner has a problem with the way you look. That is their problem not yours. Your labia is not unappealing and definitely not gross. You just don’t look like a prepubescent girl or an adult porn star. You aren’t a porn star and your partner should love you for you and most likely doesn’t pay to have sex with you, in the way a porn star gets paid.

Labiaplasty

You think to yourself there must be something wrong with me. Why are my lips bigger than hers and why do they protrude farther out than hers? Why are mine darker around the edges? Yours look the way they do because they are natural, and dare I say, normal?! Labiaplasty is defined by WebMD as a surgical procedure on the labia (the lips surrounding the vagina. Labiaplasty changes the size and shape of the labia, typically making them smaller or correcting an asymmetry between them. Surgery is most often performed on the labia minora but can also be performed on the larger and outer labia majora.

There are two major types of Labiaplasty to choose from. The Traditional Look and The Barbie. The Traditional claims to achieve a more natural look where some of the inner lips are still visible but mostly covered by the outer lips. The Barbie makes a woman look as if she is a naked Barbie doll. Often the clitoral hood is reduced as well. As with any surgery there are risks involved. Both surgeries can leave nerve damage that decreases or increases sensitivity and permanent scarring.

A change in requirements of publicly funded Australian plastic surgery requiring women to be told about natural variation in labium led to a 28% reduction in the number of surgeries performed. Unlike public hospitals, cosmetic surgeons in private practice are not required to follow these rules, and critics say that “unscrupulous” providers are charging to perform the procedure on women who wouldn’t want it if they had more information.

Wikipedia

Buttock Augmentation

Of the three surgical procedures, buttock augmentation or Gluteoplasty is the least common performed. Still there has been a significant increase in the procedure since 2015. This surgical procedure is also known as a Brazilian Butt Lift. The surgery enhances the look and shape of the buttocks giving it a fuller, more rounded and protruding appearance. It helps increase tonality that exercise alone has not achieved. Implants are placed above the gluteal muscles through an incision in the gluteal cleft. Makes a butt massage more difficult to perform since the muscle will be deep below the implants.

Breast Augmentation

Medically speaking, increasing the size, symmetry, or repairing the breast are all reasons why a woman would choose to alter the look of her breasts. Changing the shape and size of healthy breasts are done for cosmetic reasons. When reconstructive surgery isn’t needed breast augmentation is called cosmetic. Breast augmentation is achieved through saline or silicone implants or by transferring adipose tissue from one area of a woman’s body to the breast and is called a fat transfer or fat graft.

The implants are placed under breast tissue or under chest muscles. The doctor can place the implants into your chest via an incision under your breast, under your areola and nipple or under your arm. Patients usually go home the same day and there are procedures for taking care of your breasts while you heal. Aging and gaining or losing weight can cause your new breasts to require additional surgery over the years.

Other Forms of Body Alteration Porn Stars Get

Bleaching

Anal and labial bleaching is not a surgical procedure but it is something porn stars have done and also those who learned that porn stars have had this procedure. It does come with some risks though. Just to reiterate, the darkened skin on your labia and anus is normal. That is the way it is supposed to look. Regardless, bleaching is causing the skin on a certain region of the human body to become lighter. Just as you can do with Clorox bleach on clothing.

In part because of the lasting mental effects of Colonialism people throughout the world believe that a person with lighter skin is a more attractive person. This is particularly evident in African countries and in India. The World Health Organization claims that as much as 40% of African women lighten their skin. In the country of Nigeria the figure is as high as 77%. Even worse, a company in Ghana markets a product for pregnant women that will lighten the skin color of their baby in utero. The WHO also states these products can cause liver, brain and kidney damage to unborn babies. Popularity for bleaching is growing worldwide with the fastest growth in Asian countries like China, Japan, Malaysia, the Philippines and South Korea according to CNN.

The demand for whitening or skin lightening products is still just catching on in the USA since around 2005. Access to pornography, the increasing acceptance of anal sex and the popularity of hair removal in the pubic and anal regions has more and more women and men opting for bleaching. Recently home bleaching kits have become available as well.

Conclusion

If having plastic surgery on any part of your body is something you want to do, I hope it is necessary. I hope it is something you want to do for you and not for someone else and certainly not to look like someone else. There is only one you and you shouldn’t want to be anybody but yourself. If you are looking to have the perfect vulva (vagina, inner and outer labia, clitoral hood, clitoral glans and urethra), the perfect breasts, butt or anus; look no further than the mirror (and I advise you to take a look down there). Perfection is yours just the way you are now. The way you’ve been from birth to maturity. They are your body parts and they are beautiful. If your partner truly loves you or if you have even a modicum of self esteem, I’m sure you agree.

Thank you for reading. Now go forth and rub on your loved one.

Image Credit: DocD2 and Labiaplasty